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Motherhood – Finding YOUR balance

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BELOW IS A BLOG POST THAT I WROTE 9 YEARS AGO!

MY OLDEST SON IS 15 NOW. I FOUND IT IN MY DRAFTS AND DECIDED TO SHARE IT NOW BECAUSE I THINK IT WAS MEANT TO BLESS SOMEONE TODAY.

After having my first child six  years ago, it rocked my world. Everything became a blur.

I vaguely remember a whirlwhind of pampers, doctor’s visits, sleepless nights, canned food, bottles, etc.

I actually stopped working a full-time job because I truly felt I was “called” to be a stay-at-home mom.

Ha! That was fun! 🙂

When that phase in my life didn’t work out, I returned to work when my son was 10-months old. I was convicted and confused about what I was SUPPOSED to do.

The Lord ministered to me so beautifully.  He showed me that I didn’t have to be like anyone else.

He called me to be me.

He wanted me to follow His leading on how to live a balanced life for my family and not focus on the “super moms” I saw around me.

Remember this: We can always look to others for inspiration but never for intimidation.

What’s your life balance? I hope you know it…

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Do I See an “F” in Marriage?

My husband and I are at an interesting place. We’ve been married for 11 years and we have three small children and A LOT of external factors surrounding us right now.

Some days we’re mushy eyed at each other and other days… uuuhhhhmmm… we’re simply not.

I know engaged and newly married couples don’t believe it… trust me. 🙂


Some days we can talk for hours and other days we’re in separate spaces. That’s reality folks.
In order to have a great marriage, we have to FIGHT for it. It won’t happen because we love each other. Nor will it happen because we’re good companions.
Every day, we have to FIGHT through any emotions, animosity, hurt, fatigue or simply sameness in order to keep our marriage alive.

Our emotions should never dictate how we treat each other. We have to live out the Bible in our marriage regardless of how we feeeeeeeeeeeeelllll at the moment.

I know it’s hard, but it’s a part of the fight!

Keep pressing…

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The Brave and The Pitiful

As you may know I gave birth to my third child a few months ago. (In fact, she’s resting in my arms right now while I attempt to type.) Recently while she was crying, I simply sat on the floor exhausted, overwhelmed and tired. While she screamed I began to daydream about wearing a size six again, eating Louisiana Crunch cake and watching endless football with my feet propped up.

My simple daydreaming led me into a pity party. I felt tired, overweight and un-inspired. I wish I could say I quickly prayed and  felt better.  (Isn’t that how it’s supposed to work?)  I prayed but not until after I had about 20 vanilla wafers and a few cans of soda at 3am.

It was my pity food for my pitiful acting self.

 Pitiful. Pitiful. Pitiful.

As I sat on the couch, I began to laugh when I thought about you: my precious blog readers. What advice would I have given you? Would I tell you to drown your sorrows in 2000 grams of sugar and sob? No. I’d say be encouraged… be bold… fight through it and push!

Push through the emotional highs and lows, even when you’re sleep deprived.

Let’s do it together! The journey continues…

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The Art of Supporting Your Man…

I love talking about marriage. Perhaps it’s because I was such a bad wife for the first seven years of our marriage. I’m grateful God gave me such a patient and loving man. Nowadays, I’m not perfect, but I don’t consider myself a bad wife anymore. Here’s why? I truly respect and support my man. EVEN WHEN I DON’T FEEL LIKE IT. In fact, I show him extra support ESPECIALLY WHEN I DON’T FEEL LIKE IT.

My husband is pretty simple. He’s laid back, caring and low maintenance. Recently, I had a list of household chores I wanted him to do. However, when he came home he wanted to talk about his experience at the gym. I didn’t want to hear about it because I wanted to go over MY list. However… (here’s the transition folks)…

A few years ago, I would’ve discounted his excitement for the gym and proceeded to run down his list of chores. Instead, I sat and listened and cheered him on about his accomplishments. Of course, I was thinking about the loose doorknob, the broken toilet paper holder, and cleaning the garbage cans, but it wasn’t important anymore.

WHY?

Because my husband’s confidence and enthusiasm for life far outweigh my list of chores. I smiled. I giggled. I applauded him as he did push ups on the kitchen floor. I hugged him and thanked him for being so strong. Did I eventually get my list of chores done? No. But someday, they’ll get done and I’ll cheer him on for that too!

 

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My Way or the Highway

I love this scripture from Proverbs 16:3: commit your way to the Lord and your plans will succeed.

Think about it.

We are not alone.

If we’re ever confused about the path God wants us to take, we can take our plans to God and he’ll direct us.

What happens when our plans don’t line up with God’s plan for our lives? I used to ask myself that question because I never wanted to be a Christian, nor get married, nor have kids, nor work in ministry.

I had a plan.

However, as I began to ‘work my plan’ things never worked out. The more I focused on getting closer and closer to the Lord, the more His plans for me became my delight and my desire. It was not an overnight process.

I gave up my way for God’s way and I have no regrets… what about you?

I’m praying for you!

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