The Impact of Defeat

I like to win. Period. Whenever I’m focused on a goal, I accomplish it.  So recently when I suffered a major defeat related to a goal, I was crushed. At first, I thought I handled it pretty well. However, as the days went by, I noticed something inside of me not functioning right. My heart began to sink subtly to the point, that I regressed back to some old negative habits that I thought were broken. As I began to dissect “the defeat”, I realized it wasn’t “my defeat” at all. You see, given my circumstances, I did everything I could do. I had no control over the major components that helped cause the defeat. I actually went over and above in an attempt to do what I do: WIN. So I wasted a month lamenting a loss that I never owned in the first place. I thank God that He showed me the truth. I can only control what I can control, and I must release what I have no control over. Period. So although the project was a losing project, I’m still a winner and this defeat should not, and will not define me… ever.